Twelve things that ruin a first impression immediately.
Sscientists have proven that we form our first impression about someone within the first seven seconds of meeting them,
and there are definitely certain factors that can instantly make or break it.
Are you ready to find out what you should and shouldn't do in order to leave a good first impression on other people ?
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Number 12 :
This point couldn't be more important for anyone with an upcoming job interview.
A flimsy handshake can be a real first impression killer.
In his research, psychologist William F. Chaplin
found that people with a weak handshake
are instantly judged as being shy,
or, even completely incompetent !
That's definitely not how you want others to see you, is it ?
Another common mistake people make,
is holding someone's hand for too long.
Awkward !
If you're gonna give the right impression of confidence AND capability,
remember to grip the other person's hand firmly,
and for no longer than two seconds.
That'll put you on the road to success !
Number 11 :
Keeping your hands in the wrong position.
If you're ever sitting in front of a group of people,
whether it be at a business meeting,
you've got to be mindful of where you keep your hands...
but never keep them in your pockets,
because this gives the impression that you're hiding something.
If you place your hands on the table,
don't squeeze them too tightly,
or leave them flat with your palms down.
This makes people feel like you want to control them !
Also, don't forget about the role that culture plays here.
while gently folding your hands on the table is totally okay in the Western world,
this position is considered rude in Japan and India.
Do your research on the customs and culture before you visit another country.
This will help you avoid any uncomfortable situations.
number 10 :
You've got to admit that it's incredibly annoying,
when you're talking to someone,
and they're chomping on a piece of gum !
or a first time encounter with someone,
and it becomes even more inappropriate.
So don't even think about it for a job interview.
You want to show your best qualities,
not your indifference towards your potential employer !
a new study has found that in casual situations,
people chewing gum are usually perceived as more friendly and approachable.
it can either help or hurt you.
number 9 :
Eye contact has an unbelievably powerful influence
showed that people who maintain eye contact during a conversation,
are often seen as more confident,
People that avoid eye contact,
it doesn't mean you have to stare people down like a creep,
Just don't be afraid to lock eyes with another person from time to time,
instead of constantly looking around !
Especially when you meet them for the first time.
number 8 :
Statistics show that women touch their hair up to 18 times a day !
That's fine, if you're fixing it in the mirror.
But if you play with your hair while talking to someone,
you could be sending them the wrong message.
First of (it) : they might think you're flirting with them !
a person who toys with their hair during a conversation,
Traits that are especially undesirable
And when playing with your hair becomes excessively repetitive,
it can even be a sign of OCD !
If you tend to do this when you're nervous,
It'll do you and your hair a lot of good.
Number 7 :
picking the wrong conversation topics.
In order to avoid the dreaded, awkward silence,
a lot of people are ready to talk about anything with someone they've just met.
But you never know what subjects can make someone feel uncomfortable.
So it's better to play it safe,
and avoid the general TABOO topics out there.
or personal problems and complaints.
Try not to focus the conversation only on yourself,
That's what therapists are for !
It's always a good idea to be attentive to your conversation partner.
Number 6 :
invading someone's personal space
Just as there are certain lines
you shouldn't cross when it comes to conversation topics,
the same goes for personal space.
the space between you and another person,
There's a certain distance for close friends and family,
one for informal conversations,
and another for formal interactions.
When it comes to meeting someone for the first time,
keep a minimum of four feet between the two of you.
If you stand too close to them,
you may come off as aggressive.
But if you stand too far away,
Just try to find a happy medium,
number 5 :
We've all been in a room with someone who constantly taps their foot,
or drums their pen on the desk !
And if you do any of these things,
you're not only annoying everyone,
you're also giving them the wrong impression about you !
Tapping can indicate nervousness,
People might even think that you're purposely trying to irritate others,
or draw attention to yourself.
And while cracking your knuckles can help relieve stress,
It's one of the most annoying sounds,
especially during important meetings or presentations.
number 4 :
constantly checking your phone
and 24/7 access to the Internet,
we've become addicted to our gadgets !
and found that the average person
a hundred and ten times a day !
Even if you're just checking the time on your screen,
it comes off as extremely impolite,
when you do it during a conversation.
the other person gets the impression that they're boring you,
and you seem to have better things to do.
A study from the University of Essex,
showed that even just having one's phone on the table next to them,
reduces a conversation's quality,
and the participants engagement.
Period !
Number 3 :
Probably the most embarrassing thing you can do,
when you see someone is to forget their name.
And it's especially humiliating
To steer clear of this awkward situation,
get into the habit of immediately repeating someone's name after you've been introduced,
like : Hi Anne ! Nice to meet you.
Justifying this faux pas with excuses
and try to avoid using phrases where you have to name the other person,
Number 2 :
Well your best friend might kid you that you're always so fashionably late.
There's nothing to joke about it when it comes to first impressions,
Running late to a meeting with people you don't know,
or have a formal relationship with,
will shed a guaranteed negative light on you.
You'll seem like an unreliable and unorganized person,
that doesn't respect people enough to value their time !
Nothing good about any of that.
So, if you don't want that mass to be the way people view you,
Leave your house in enough time
so that you don't have to run to your meeting.
You'll be all disheveled and unfocused,
There are tons of online resources to learn better time management skills,
number 1 :
people do judge a book by its cover.
they do it within seven seconds of setting eyes on us !
There's not much you can say within this time,
which proves that a lot of assumptions people make,
are based purely off of looks.
statistics claim that 55 percent of the first impression,
studies show that your height,
can even influence the size of your paycheck.
So if you're meeting someone for the very first time,
again, especially in more formal situations,
try to be conservative in your choice of clothing,
You don't have to dress to the nines or anything,
just look neat and well put together.
What else do you think can ruin a first impression ?
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